What’s The Point?

By Sarah Petty L. Ac., Dipl. Ac. on October 10th, 2012

Hello again!

It has been an absolute pleasure working with clients in the treatment room. I am inspired by the work people are doing for themselves and their community. Thank you.

So, the phrase, “what’s the point?” has been brought up several times this past week by people in and out of my practice. What a question. What is the point? I’m not sure I have the answer that will apply and resonate with everyone, and I woke up really wanting to explore this question.

Is there a deeper question? When I hear, “what’s the point?”, I hear, “What is the significance?” My feeling is this person is in search of meaning and/or value. Here is what is known: We are alive until we are not alive. What we say around all of that is personal belief and is a reflection of our inner world. Why is Joe Schmo from down the street so easy-go-lucky? He simply does not create a space for himself with a lot of restriction, judgement and high standards. What sets us all apart? We are all human with our human experiences. What distinguishes us are our actions, emotions and beliefs-all of which are of our creation. No one built the world you live in but yourself.

So, explore what is limiting you and what is having you go small. What I mean by “going small” is choosing to operate from a negative place, whether that be fear, worry, shame, etc. What are you committed to? That will be the thing that grows and flourishes in your life. Are you committed to your suffering? Or are you committed to expanding and cultivating more joy and freedom in your day to day life? When you refuse to forgive and forget, are you committed to your suffering? When you are stubborn and unyielding, unable for new growth and expansion, are you giving up on being an active participant of life and giving way to an automatic way of being? When you hold on to hurt, even though you know it does not serve you, are you choosing to prolong your suffering? Does it not feel like a choice? When did you give up your power to choose? There are many things in this world that are out of our control. One thing we are all capable of is growth in self-mastery-if we choose to commit to it.

So, if you come to a place of, “ok, no, it would be crazy to be committed to my suffering, but what’s the point?”, I have a thought. We are with ourselves from birth to death. We may try drugs, sex and rock and roll to try and escape, but the truth is we can never run from ourselves. So, for me, the point is to be a friend to myself. I want to contribute to my expansion and learn not to get in my own way. Self reflection is crucial. The more I learn about myself, the more I see the ways in which I flourish and the ways in which I shrink. My practice is then to lovingly let go of what has me stagnate, suffer and go small, so that I can cultivate the ways in which I flourish. There was a time when I was my own worst critic. I would tell myself I was reaching high to motivate myself towards a worthy goal or cause, but when I fell short of it, I would beat myself up. It was abuse. And it was a hard space to live in day after day. The truth is, I was only a failure if I gave in to defeat. Life is better when we keep it moving. It is certainly better when my head space is peaceful and positive.

When we don’t get overwhelmed and caught up in the details, it is very simple. Get to know yourself. Explore. Do this as lovingly as you can. See what has you smile and create ease in your body and create more of that. If you are having trouble finding any light, search harder. Life is not all bad. There are gifts along the way. Choose to treat yourself well. If there is a conversation that you are undeserving of your love-let go of that like it is hot lava-it is just as painful and damaging. Be your best friend. Create a world that is lovely to spend time in. Once you are happy with yourself, the meaning and purpose will follow. You won’t have you standing in your own way anymore, distracting yourself with negativity and limiting thoughts and beliefs.

“There is not one big cosmic meaning for all; there is only the meaning we each give to our life, an individual meaning, an individual plot, like an individual novel, a book for each person.”
Anaïs Nin, The Diary of Anaïs Nin, Vol. 1: 1931-1934

I hope you all have a wonderful rest of the week. Be committed to yourself because you are all worth it.

Till next time, Be Well.

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