Living a Life that is Our Own

By Sarah Petty L. Ac., Dipl. Ac. on May 30th, 2012

Today’s blog is featuring a book by Debbie Ford. COURAGE: Overcoming Fear and Igniting Self Confidence is filled with inspirational and illuminating content, reflecting on the common human issue of living small and giving up one’s power. Many of you are on a new path to health that requires you to re-examine your life and take on wholesome habits. For most, this is adopting a lifestyle that differs from the community that surrounds you. Taking on better food choices and habits, meditating, yoga, breathing exercises and talking about the nature of your qi may not be popular at home or around the watering hole. How does moving against the current effect our self confidence and resolve to change? What is the result of a life of people pleasing and not living from our authentic selves? What do we sacrifice when we silence our own voice? How deep is our fear of ridicule?

Excerpt from the book:

“When we lack the confidence, we feel unworthy of having what we want, of speaking our truth, of making radical change that would transform the foundation of our future. When we feel weak, helpless, and powerless, we lackĀ  the strength to ward off thoughts of defeat, negativity, and fear that prevent us from living the lives we want. When we relinquish our own power and deny what we are capable of, we succumb to our addictions, our fears, our unhealthy impulses, and patterning of the past. We act as if we believe that we are indeed weak and insecure……..Every time we make a choice based in fear, we teach our minds to believe that we are helpless, hopeless, and powerless–three emotional states that leave us feeling like the victim.”

This book talks about being a warrior. Many of us have been brought up in a culture that frowns upon expressing upset. We are taught to not make any waves, and to shove our feelings under the rug. Fighting is unbecoming and anger is dangerous. So, instead, we grow up stuffing anger and frustration, and we yield to compromise. After a while, we fold on everything until we forget who we are. What do I like? What makes ME happy? And while we keep stuffing our true desires down, we never learn healthy ways of expressing those “unpleasant” emotions. We get lost.

It is never graceful to blow up at someone. Healthy expression of anger is about having perspective and clarity when you voice your opinion. I know when I establish my intention before I speak, I am more successful in expressing myself and have less regret. Speak from your heart as much as possible.

The truth as I know it is, if you can not speak your truth for fear of losing something or someone, you never really have it. Get to know yourself. Know what brings you joy and create more of that. Know what is important to you and spend time with it. Know what is in your heart, and speak it. Be true to yourself. When I am true to myself, I am free. When I am free, I radiate with lightness of the spirit which moves through me. I attract more love and happiness. I breathe easy, knowing I am living the life I envisioned.

I wish you all well. Till next week…

Comments are closed.